By Astrid Lee, Reiki Master Teacher – Therapeutic Reiki :: We Are One :: World Healing
When ‘Why People Don’t Heal And How They Can’, an older book on healing by medical intuitive Caroline Myss, begged ‘take me, take me’, I took it off the shelves and brought it home.
While I find the core content fascinating, her books are somewhat hard to read. To help you ease into some of her healing concepts I’m writing this series on Myths about Healing. I am discussing some valuable healing insights on about road blocks to healing. As I am a very pragmatic healing professional myself, I’m adding actionable self-empowerment suggestions to remove these blocks and help you heal.
Healing Myth #1: My Life Is Defined By My Wound
While everyone is to some degree influenced by personal mental, emotional or physical wounds, many people believe that their lives are the result of these old wounds. They hold the self-limiting belief that they can not heal.
While sad, this belief gives them power. It permits them to demand other people’s help and sympathy for their woundedness, without ever challenging the ‘wounded ones’ to put it behind them. They can not fail as none can expect anything of them nor do they carry responsiblities. However, such constant focus on wounds deepens their woundedness and their growing fear of strength and independence hinders their recovery.
Who are ‘they’? Many of us are included here, to some degree….
If you find yourself thinking or saying: ‘I could have been a …. but my wounded past prevented me from achieving it’ or ‘my wounded past is far worse than yours’ take note to these pointers to recovery:
- Observe ‘wounded-me’ self-talk. Catch yourself when you have limiting thoughts, such as your excuses why you’re not doing more positive things with your life; and when you feel empowered by the thought of being more wounded than others.
- Start healing talk including a change: ‘while I have been limited by this in the past, today I’m taking a step beyond it, and am actually doing xyz towards reaching my goal. I’m ready to surprise myself to actually reach it.’
Healing is changing. Changing for good!
Healing Myth #2: being healthy means being alone
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